Love is a magical experience that sometimes comes hand in hand with struggles. But that doesn’t mean that your relationship, however it may be confirmed, won’t work out!
Everyone needs to put in their little grain of sand to make things work the best they can.
…like in any relationship, empathy is important
We believe that the root of it all is empathy. Empathy has the power to fix and overcome anything because it is such a specific feeling.
Sometimes our points of view are so strong that we may lack a little bit of understanding of the other person’s way of feeling things, however, there can be an ingredient that fixes it all: Putting yourself in the other’s shoes.
If you’re in love with a neurotypical or someone on the spectrum, we’re here to shine a little bit of light into any insecurities you might be having about your relationship.
1. Social situations can be challenging
Social situations will not always come easy to your autistic partner. Understanding and empathizing in reference to this and how best you can grow from such situations is important.
Simply talk about it. Ask your partner and teach each other the best ways they can interact without feeling overwhelmed and do feel comfortable.
2. Honesty will always be there.This can be one of the most challenging but funny parts about having a neurotypical and autistic pairing. It can be challenging because hearing the truth for questions about physical appearance or opinions about a family member can sometimes get harsh. However, this is how people on the spectrum see the world and being truthful and direct is something that doesn’t necessarily have to cause fights.
People with ASD are also amazing judges of character, so having someone notice things that neurotypicals sometimes “choose” to overlook can be a good thing!
3. Always be Communicating.
Communication is such an essential aspect of any relationship. Remember that people on the spectrum don’t often grasp subtle passive-aggressiveness, hints, figures of speech, sarcasm or body language. Take a moment to think about some of the things that can get lost in the communication between both of you and work it out!
4. Sticking to the Plan
Even for neurotypicals, a change of plans might cause frustration. However, for some autistic people changes can be devastating due to hostility towards change.
Try to stick with the plan as best as possible. But, if nothing can be done, let them know as early and gently as possible and work together to find a better solution and an alternative plan.
5. Affectionate expressions may not come naturally
There are many people on the spectrum who love hugs, snuggles and other demonstrations of love. But there are plenty who don’t recognize these behaviors and have sensory hostility towards them. If your partner is still learning how to express this way, don’t take it too personally. Talking about each other’s needs and time to process affectionate behaviors is important.
Lastly, enjoy your relationship!
Efforts need to be taken to build strong relationships however they may be shaped. Feel free to talk about anything that may be bothering you, speak up. Honest communication goes a long way.